Reasons For Dating

Reasons for Dating ...With My Hubby,..that's the long version of the title of this blog. Last Sunday I had a date with my hubby at Red Lobster, one of our favorite place to eat...(woow, Red Lobster should pay me for this advertisement)...
I've read alot about how important to have a date night with your spouse especially when you have kids, what I mean by 'night' is actually doesn't have to be in the night time. After we have a daughter mostly we had 'lunch' or late dinner for our date. FYI, we don't like to watch movie in the cinema, we prefer to watch DVD at home, so we never have a date watching movie. I like the idea that 'dating' is having nice meals together in the restaurant (doesn't have to be a fancy restaurant) and have meaningful conversations that don't revolve arround our two-year-old's potty training..(confession: my husband and I couldn't resist, we talked 'a little bit' about my precious daughter when we have a date..ha..ha!). I know that each marriage/family have its own 'culture of togetherness' ..maybe some couple don't need to have a DATE and prefer to do things as a family. To me it's about BALANCING, I have to admitt the sense of motherness was so strong when Grace, our daughter still newborn baby, I couldn't imagine leaving her with someone else while we're dining out. I'm a devoted mother, but I have to remind myself that I'm also a 'wife' and every couple needs time to reconnect as adults. In my opinion, 'date night' is essential, in keeping a relationship going, I mean Romantic relationship. I am fortunate that I have a nice mother in-law, she loves to baby sitt her grand-daughter so that we can go out for a date.



life lobsters in aquarium of
Red Lobster restaurant



Lobster-Crab and Seafood Stuffed Mushroom

I would love to attached to my kid most of the time, seeing her growing and playing, but I also constantly picking up her toys, asking her to not do this, do that!..plus the household chores...I have to force myself to take a 'break'...and have some balances that can lite up my life and my relationship with my hubby!. By not dating your spouse, you don't just lose your relationship, you lose the parts of you that are romantic and the parts of existence that have nothing to do with raising children. For couples with or without kids,...Happy Dating..! Good Luck!

Crab Linguini Alfredo

Ooh ya..!..almost forget about 'Red Lobster' it's obvious that they have 'lobster' as one of their main menu, I had 'Crab Linguini Alfredo'..., I am the one who always cook pasta in our house, so this time, I just sit back and relax and enjoyed linguini pasta with incredible crab which someone else prepared to me...fyuuh!,..and my husband ordered 'Wood Grill Lobster', we got Garden and Caesar Salad along with them and my favorite 'biscuit',..we sip happily the 'Long Island Ice Tea'...and before we eat the 'lady lobster and her cousin, crab' we had nice conversation and had bite after bite of 'Lobster-Crab-and Seafood Stuffed Mushrooms'...as the starter. By the way, 'biscuit' is like 'bakwan' in Indonesia, some dough seasoned with herb and butter and bake it. But in Indonesia and most of European countries especially Netherlands, biscuit means 'cookie' (in America).

Garden and Caesar Salad n biscuit

Wood-Grill Lobster with Sirloin

photo courtesy of Red Lobster, Tacoma

Je me rappelle notre première date, nous n'ai pas parlé beaucoup, se regardant fixement, mon cerveau étais le gel. .do ne pas savoir quoi dire !

I remember our first date, we didn't talk alot, staring each other, my brain was freeze..don't know what to say!